Expectation from "???"

I know the "???" question mark in the title made you curious to know about it.
Well i want you to replace that "???" with whichever in the following suits you.

Expectation from Parents
Parents expect their 4-12 years kids to learn the best things in the world in the fastest time possible. They expect from their 13-17 years children not to involve in any fights and set a proper basement for their Academics. They expect from 18-22 years son and daughter to stay away from distractions and complete the education and frame a clear career path. They expect 23-30 year daughter/son to get stabilized in the work and marry someone of their choice. They expect 30+ year kids to understand their weakness and support them. But, one thing for sure, your parents expect you to be always happy, free from all troubles, rely on them, grow in front of them. We know we love our Parents. Our parents also knows we love them. But we never express our Love to them in action and they never expect it either. I guess we can express our Love in action to exceed the expectation.

Expectation from kids
As a kid we expect our parents not to leave us alone any time. As we grow, we expect our parents to fulfill all our needs and wants compared to what our peers have. As we reach teenage, we expect more freedom to take our own decisions. As an Adult, we expect our parents to support us to grow in our areas of interest. As we cross 20+, we expect our parents to trust us and have belief that we will make it happen. After marriage, we expect our parents not to compare ourselves with us before marriage. As a middle age person, we expect our parents to adapt with time. The main thing any of your son/daughter expect from you is belief and trust on them, then they will definitely won't leave you at any stage of their Life.

Expectation from Relatives
They expect you to help them, when they are in need. They expect you to understand their position also, when you are in need. They expect you to interact more during marriage season. They expect you to involve them in everything in your family. They expect you not to involve in their family matters. You can treat them as friends so that the relationship gets better.

Expectation from Friends
Friends expect you to share everything with them. They expect they should be informed first then anyone else. They expect you not to keep any secrets. They expect you to talk to them any time about anything in any place. They expect you to back them up, when they are into something. They expect you to be ready for all the fun. They expect you to involve them instead of inviting them. They expect you to listen to them and change the topic. They expect you to spend more time with them. They expect you to be together always.You can always give time to your friend, no matter how busy you get in Life.

Expectation from BF/GF
They expect you to treat them special. They expect you to give more importance to them. They expect you to be with them 100%, when you are with them. They expect you to praise them. They expect you to make time for them. They expect you to be protective with them. They expect you to show care for them. They expect you to understand them without asking questions. They expect you to give space to them, when they need. They expect you to be there with them, when they need. Honesty is most expected out of you.

Expectation from Husband/Wife
They expect you to be more responsible. They expect you to be genuine. They expect you to be more friendly. They expect you to treat their parents as equally your  parents. They expect you to manage career without troubling personal Life. They expect you to take care of them. They expect you to handle issues with an ease. They expect you to have faith in them. They expect you to keep update them with everything you are up to. They expect you to show your concern in action. They expect you to hold their hands forever. You can keep up your promise for your partner to meet the expectations.

Expectation from our self
What do we expect from ourselves?
We don't expect much from ourselves. we never gave that much importance to our expectations from self because we were also expecting from others like above mentioned expectations.We expect everyone else meet our expectations. We expect to meet other's expectations. We expect everything we do give positive results. Everything we did till now is because of our own expectations only but not defined ones. When we define our own expectations from self and work towards meeting it, we will definitely excel in our Life and be happy with our expectations and others as well.

The Wolf inside you

At times, you would have faced situations when you felt a great hate for those who have taken so much with no sorrow for what they do. But hate wears you down and does not hurt your enemy. It is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die.

Two wolves are inside you. One wolf is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him and does not take offense when no offense was intended. It will only fight when it is right to do so and in the right way. This wolf stands for joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.

The other wolf is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of a temper. He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger, for his anger will change nothing. This wolf represents fear, envy, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, lies, false pride and superiority.

Sometimes it is hard to live with these two wolves inside us as both of them try to dominate the spirit.

Do you know which wolf wins ?

The one you feed the most!!!

All of us have a conscience inside us. Just follow what it tells us and we will never go wrong.

Never be reactive to situations. Remember that we always have a choice to choose what we feel about things.

Heart vs Brain

February being the month of Love and Brain being one of my favorite topic, Let me write about the thoughts occur in Brain regarding Love. Now you might be thinking Heart is responsible for Love and Brain should simply follow the Heart. Fair enough, but is that so simple to implement and bring it into Action? 

Let us assume, No! lets feel we are in Love. Love can be with some person or with our Dream. Our Heart Beats faster when we see that person or think of our Dream. What does our Brain understands? Is it an Adrenalin rush due to emergency for fight or Flight? According to the visual sight from eyes and Audio hearing from ears, there is no danger. Brain is confused, about next action, and its trying to find out what is the emergency by scanning all its previous memories, logic and understandings of the surrounding environment. That’s the state of nervousness caused due to non coherence between Brain and Heart. But Brain needs some logic or kind of proof to execute next step, until we get that, it’s a series of random thoughts that makes us do things which we laugh at ourselves at later stage. Ultimately, Our Brain figures out, it’s a false trigger of emergency given from Heart due to some strange emotional feeling called Love and it stores the related person or Dream as Love, which Brain doesn’t understands but gets affected in the quest of finding a logical proof. 

Now, every time when we come across a situation that reminds that person or Dream, Brain indicates our sensory organs eyes, ears and skin to locate our love. Heart knows only to Love, so it pumps more blood towards Brain to help supplying more oxygen to Brain to be more active. Brain takes all the steps to reach closer to our Love/Dream. There are two possibilities, one we find our Love, two we won’t. If we find love for us from that person or we accomplish our Dream. Brain concludes by matching all the events taken place till now with a reason and logic, and tries to reproduce the same again and again when the situation arises. Brain and Heart is in complete coherence with each other and spreads more Love. If we won’t find love or accomplish our Dream, Brain is again in confused state since there is no match and reasoning for the events occurred till now. Heart again continues to Love irrespective of outcome, But Brain doesn’t get it easily, so total non coherence. Heart pumps more blood to our Hands and Legs to go for it, But Brain rejects to move forward without a logical reason. Brain takes some reverse action like forgetting, but for Brain the process of forgetting means remembering not to remember, that makes it to save twice. Brain replaces all Love with every other known emotions like Hate, Anger, etc. But still fails to find a logical reason.

If anyone experiences any such situation, don’t worry: just give some time to both Heart and Brain to settle down by using your willpower which is the reason of your existence apart from all biological stuff. With time and willpower, Brain understands Heart role is to Love unconditionally and my role is to show the Love in Action, Since Heart doesn’t expect anything in return, why should I keep looking for a reason or logic to show Love. Heart never breaks, it takes impure blood and gives out pure blood. Brain is a vast universe learning itself day by day.

Brain is an evolving organ, which keeps learning. Heart is the stabilized organ, which always tries to retain its stability. Let the Brain and heart sort the issues with each other about what is Love? You do what makes you feel right and Happy :-)