Will you be my Love?

My dear Sweetest Honey
You are the only one for me and its not funny.

Your Smile is the rarest beauty
I am your biggest fan always in duty.

You are the fairest fairy
I wish I can keep watching you forever deary

You open the eyes of My Dream
Please don't make me end it with a Scream.

If Diamonds are the most precious
You are the synonym for Precious.

Water has the ability to cure
you are the only cure for me, i am very sure.

Everyday i am learning about you is new
And every single one is so True.

I won't tell you, Today is the day i was thinking only about you
Because there is not even a single day where i haven't thought about you

I don't remember you every moment
because i have never forgotten you in any instant.

Every time, i hear your name, my heart skips a beat
My mind will imagine your picture so neat.

When My eyes sees your calm pretty face 
My heart beats as if i am running a marathon.

When i make your eyes fall on earth with shyness
The Ground below me becomes gravitational less.

I am not just interested in you
I am totally committed to you.
Hence I can't leave you.
And i can't leave without you.
I keep coming back for you
I will be patiently waiting for you.

Everything in Life grows
Even My Love for you.

With Time, My Love for you is growing strong
I am all yours for this Life, even if i am wrong.

I found my definition of Love.
You are my meaning of Life.

I am determined to be the best husband to my Wife
you will know that when you become part of my Life.

I believe that you will accept me,
till then you are in every thought of mine.

Will you be my Love?

You need to have Memory before you can Forget

Most of the times, we will forget what we are suppose to remember and we won't forget what we are suppose to forget. There is a saying that "Forgetting things is a boon to people, so that people can forget all the bad memories and move on with the Life" When we forget things which we are suppose to remember, we feel bad that our memory is not strong enough and wonder how did we forget such a small thing. When we cannot forget something which is bothering, we feel bad that why our memory is so strong and worry why can't we forget?

Now the question is How to avoid forgetting things which we are suppose to remember? and How to forget things which are troubling us? 

First of all, we are clear what not to forget? like buying few things to home, paying the bills before last date, clearing the debts in time, filling the fuel to the vehicle before it stops in the middle of the street, completing the assignment, most importantly working towards our dream/goal/success. Everyone one of us have dreams and the ability to achieve it, but we forget to remind ourselves that we need to work towards it to accomplish.

We are also clear what to forget? like bad incidents, fights, failures, Relationship issues, Anger, Revenge, Fear. Everyone of us deserves a happy life to enjoy the present moment by forgetting past sorrows, but we keep reminding ourselves about those incidents.

Rather than finding out How? to overcome? If we are able to answer why? we can find out How? very easily. This is the common principle works everywhere, but we forget to apply. Lets make use of this without forgetting.

Lets find out why not to forget few things? 

because if we forget,

1. It will cost us.

2. It might hurt someone.

3. It lead us to do double work.

4. It adds up unnecessary pressure.

5. It will affect our regular routine.

so, it is important to remember.

Lets find out why to forget few things?

because

1. we cannot live in present.

2. we cannot focus on work.

3. we cannot enjoy current happiness.

4. we cannot give time to others and ourselves as well.

5. we won't move forward in Life.

so, it is important to forget those which stops us from growing.

Before forgetting something, we should have some memory about it to forget right? How can we store something into our memory? By providing input to our mind regarding something. The problem in things which we forget, we don't feed those inputs into our memory, because of the least priority or still there is no deadline. It just takes a couple of thoughts to feed into our memory. But we won''t do that, instead we just sense that something has to be done. something like a video camera running without memory card inside to store. 

If we just follow a simple two step procedure 

1. Give attention to detail

2. provide the input to mind, just by thinking once what has to be done.

in everything we do, we will get impressed by ourselves in no time.

A simple example will be How many times we forget the names of the new people we meet?

If we just give our attention, while they are telling their name and recalling their name and thinking about it, we won't forget their name at least for few weeks.

How to forget? is more complex than how to remember? Because the things which we are suppose to forget are nothing but the memories which are repetitively occurred and reinforced over time and again. These memories are something stored in hundreds of memory card with multiple backups. Now we erase one memory block, there exists a backup of it. Our mind has an infinite memory space with an enable option to activate those. Our mind doesn't forget things so easily, it is very complex and time consuming, but we can deactivate those memories by putting a wall around it. That means, we don't forget completely, its just we do not recall it. Remembering to forget something will actually create a backup of the memory one more time that we have to forget that. Instead if we don't force ourselves in forgetting and redo the different things in the same space, there are more chances of overriding the memories which we want to forget.

A simple example will be the school life or college life, we would have gone to school/college everyday and interact with same set of people repetitively that would have created huge set of backups. But when we replace our school life with college life and college with work life, we will be doing the different set of activities daily repetitively i.e. in the same space. which slowly builds a wall over old set of memories and create a new set of memories. This leads us to forget the things smoothly and live in the present.

"No need to forget old memories irrespective of whether its good or bad, instead create a new set of memories with time; which gives us enough option to choose the memories which makes us happy any time"

~ANIL K N

Heaven in your Smile

I only exist
For the memory
That you were my Friend
A picture's engraved
Upon my minds eye
Of a forgotten time
It is distant now
It is meaningless
Without you

Time passes by
And only confirms
Everything I feared
All of the things
That I once lived for
Have disappeared
It's a hollow world
It's a world without aim
Without you
You are lost to me now
And it's lonely here
Without you

There is heaven in your smile
And a light is in your eyes
It's a secret you can't hide

I wish, some day i get a chance
to witness The Heaven in your smile again

 ~K N

Heart vs Brain

February being the month of Love and Brain being one of my favorite topic, Let me write about the thoughts occur in Brain regarding Love. Now you might be thinking Heart is responsible for Love and Brain should simply follow the Heart. Fair enough, but is that so simple to implement and bring it into Action? 

Let us assume, No! lets feel we are in Love. Love can be with some person or with our Dream. Our Heart Beats faster when we see that person or think of our Dream. What does our Brain understands? Is it an Adrenalin rush due to emergency for fight or Flight? According to the visual sight from eyes and Audio hearing from ears, there is no danger. Brain is confused, about next action, and its trying to find out what is the emergency by scanning all its previous memories, logic and understandings of the surrounding environment. That’s the state of nervousness caused due to non coherence between Brain and Heart. But Brain needs some logic or kind of proof to execute next step, until we get that, it’s a series of random thoughts that makes us do things which we laugh at ourselves at later stage. Ultimately, Our Brain figures out, it’s a false trigger of emergency given from Heart due to some strange emotional feeling called Love and it stores the related person or Dream as Love, which Brain doesn’t understands but gets affected in the quest of finding a logical proof. 

Now, every time when we come across a situation that reminds that person or Dream, Brain indicates our sensory organs eyes, ears and skin to locate our love. Heart knows only to Love, so it pumps more blood towards Brain to help supplying more oxygen to Brain to be more active. Brain takes all the steps to reach closer to our Love/Dream. There are two possibilities, one we find our Love, two we won’t. If we find love for us from that person or we accomplish our Dream. Brain concludes by matching all the events taken place till now with a reason and logic, and tries to reproduce the same again and again when the situation arises. Brain and Heart is in complete coherence with each other and spreads more Love. If we won’t find love or accomplish our Dream, Brain is again in confused state since there is no match and reasoning for the events occurred till now. Heart again continues to Love irrespective of outcome, But Brain doesn’t get it easily, so total non coherence. Heart pumps more blood to our Hands and Legs to go for it, But Brain rejects to move forward without a logical reason. Brain takes some reverse action like forgetting, but for Brain the process of forgetting means remembering not to remember, that makes it to save twice. Brain replaces all Love with every other known emotions like Hate, Anger, etc. But still fails to find a logical reason.

If anyone experiences any such situation, don’t worry: just give some time to both Heart and Brain to settle down by using your willpower which is the reason of your existence apart from all biological stuff. With time and willpower, Brain understands Heart role is to Love unconditionally and my role is to show the Love in Action, Since Heart doesn’t expect anything in return, why should I keep looking for a reason or logic to show Love. Heart never breaks, it takes impure blood and gives out pure blood. Brain is a vast universe learning itself day by day.

Brain is an evolving organ, which keeps learning. Heart is the stabilized organ, which always tries to retain its stability. Let the Brain and heart sort the issues with each other about what is Love? You do what makes you feel right and Happy :-)