Initial Days of Career

1. Make a Best Friend

    Everyone who works with you are not your friends, they are your colleagues. Surprisingly you do spend almost of one third of your life at your work place. Every one needs a friend who is with you the moment you need, who can be trusted undoubtedly. Your family do not know your work place and its policy to understand it's problems and frustrations. Your College friends and childhood friends do not know your colleagues to understand the jokes and fun related to work place. Have a best friend at your work place. 

2. Find a Mentor

    I said Mentor, not the boss. Your boss can be your mentor but there might be vested interest in their suggestions. Mentor can be your college senior, old colleague, someone who believes in you, ready to spend time with you to help you with showing the path of your choices. A friend who is cool to spend a quality time with you without any hidden agenda. Find a mentor who has experienced personally about the path you want to take. If you have any decisions to be made about your career about higher studies, changing the domain, switching the job, Mentor do not influence your decision, just helps you to make your own decision with additional information.

3. Find a Guide

    Guide is to provide you with step by step training and process to follow in your day to day work. Most of the workplaces, your Team Lead will be the guide and unfortunately you won't get the amount of discrete training and support. If you find one, do make use of them effectively. Get the training materials, read through, understand the details, clarify if any doubts, make a presentation of your understanding, this is just for your quick reference. nobody remembers everything from the first time. Self Guide is the best and fastest way to grow.

4. Build your Resume

   Do not work for impressing anyone or just to meet the deadlines. Work for yourself aligning company's goal to your passion. Becoming an expert in a particular domain will make you a specialist in the field. At the same time, obtaining skills on multiple domain keeps your career options wide. Work on everything you understand and likes to pursue.

5. Pick a Sport

    Have a recreational activity, a small game to break your routine and rejuvenate you. Find a partner to play some sport. Forget work for a while and have some fun. Do it regularly, but not at the cost of increasing your workload.

6. Ask what you want
    Raise your voice to ask what you deserve. You just have to ask once, the moment you feel you are not getting what you deserve, you know you are in the wrong place and you need to take the necessary steps to be in the right place.

7. Stay away from Office Politics

    It's true office politics exists and everybody knows and some people feels its the only way to grow. Stay away from them as well, else you will be used as a pawn and bait for their convenience. Do not say anything about you and your plans to them, do not show interest in what they are trying to influence you with. Treat them as some printer and coffee machine in office. Talk to them only if it's official.

8. Avoid Office Relationships

    It's very tempting and fantasizing to have office romance. You will find many attractive people and you will have crush on many. You wish to be in the team of your crush and try to adjust your lunch and break timings according to your potential mate. This disturbs your work and you are constantly looking out for the opportunities to meet them and spend time with them. If it is not mutual, you will spoil your image. If it's mutual, still you spoil your image. Let me put it straight, Office is your work place, not a marriage bureau or dating site. 

My Love for you, A Beautiful Poem

My love for you grows everyday in each and every way.
It grows when you look at me, when you say my name.
It grows when I hold you close at night
and can feel your heart beating against mine.
It grows when our hands meet and each of our fingers
lace together perfectly.
It grows when I tickle you and you can't help, but laugh.
It grows when you talk about us in the future,
because I couldn’t imagine it
with anyone else but you.
And most of all it grows when you say I Love You.

When things are changing all around us
and the world seems to move too fast,
don't forget, I'll be right beside you.
So when you look ahead to future changes,
or think about how the past used to be,
Don't forget to look beside you
because that's where you'll find me loving you
with all my heart.
That's one thing you can count on
that will never change

When I see you, 
my heart sinks down to my belly, 
my legs turn to jelly.
I hear your voice and my ears melt... 
this is a feeling I have never felt.

You are my very first thought in the morning, 
and my last night fall.
I want to grow old with you, 
I know this feeling is true!

The truth is that I don’t know why I love you?
I just know I love you a lot
I don’t even know how much I love you
I just know I will love you forever
if someone were to ask me if I think about you everyday
I would say no, because a day is not enough time
to express how much I love you

When I first met you I looked into your heart.

I knew you were the one and we would have a great start .

Your smile makes me smile . Your laugh makes me laugh

You are always on my mind , no matter what I do .

Because I Love You

Expectation from "???"

I know the "???" question mark in the title made you curious to know about it.
Well i want you to replace that "???" with whichever in the following suits you.

Expectation from Parents
Parents expect their 4-12 years kids to learn the best things in the world in the fastest time possible. They expect from their 13-17 years children not to involve in any fights and set a proper basement for their Academics. They expect from 18-22 years son and daughter to stay away from distractions and complete the education and frame a clear career path. They expect 23-30 year daughter/son to get stabilized in the work and marry someone of their choice. They expect 30+ year kids to understand their weakness and support them. But, one thing for sure, your parents expect you to be always happy, free from all troubles, rely on them, grow in front of them. We know we love our Parents. Our parents also knows we love them. But we never express our Love to them in action and they never expect it either. I guess we can express our Love in action to exceed the expectation.

Expectation from kids
As a kid we expect our parents not to leave us alone any time. As we grow, we expect our parents to fulfill all our needs and wants compared to what our peers have. As we reach teenage, we expect more freedom to take our own decisions. As an Adult, we expect our parents to support us to grow in our areas of interest. As we cross 20+, we expect our parents to trust us and have belief that we will make it happen. After marriage, we expect our parents not to compare ourselves with us before marriage. As a middle age person, we expect our parents to adapt with time. The main thing any of your son/daughter expect from you is belief and trust on them, then they will definitely won't leave you at any stage of their Life.

Expectation from Relatives
They expect you to help them, when they are in need. They expect you to understand their position also, when you are in need. They expect you to interact more during marriage season. They expect you to involve them in everything in your family. They expect you not to involve in their family matters. You can treat them as friends so that the relationship gets better.

Expectation from Friends
Friends expect you to share everything with them. They expect they should be informed first then anyone else. They expect you not to keep any secrets. They expect you to talk to them any time about anything in any place. They expect you to back them up, when they are into something. They expect you to be ready for all the fun. They expect you to involve them instead of inviting them. They expect you to listen to them and change the topic. They expect you to spend more time with them. They expect you to be together always.You can always give time to your friend, no matter how busy you get in Life.

Expectation from BF/GF
They expect you to treat them special. They expect you to give more importance to them. They expect you to be with them 100%, when you are with them. They expect you to praise them. They expect you to make time for them. They expect you to be protective with them. They expect you to show care for them. They expect you to understand them without asking questions. They expect you to give space to them, when they need. They expect you to be there with them, when they need. Honesty is most expected out of you.

Expectation from Husband/Wife
They expect you to be more responsible. They expect you to be genuine. They expect you to be more friendly. They expect you to treat their parents as equally your  parents. They expect you to manage career without troubling personal Life. They expect you to take care of them. They expect you to handle issues with an ease. They expect you to have faith in them. They expect you to keep update them with everything you are up to. They expect you to show your concern in action. They expect you to hold their hands forever. You can keep up your promise for your partner to meet the expectations.

Expectation from our self
What do we expect from ourselves?
We don't expect much from ourselves. we never gave that much importance to our expectations from self because we were also expecting from others like above mentioned expectations.We expect everyone else meet our expectations. We expect to meet other's expectations. We expect everything we do give positive results. Everything we did till now is because of our own expectations only but not defined ones. When we define our own expectations from self and work towards meeting it, we will definitely excel in our Life and be happy with our expectations and others as well.

CHANCE to CHOICE

"Take a chance and give a chance to increase your choices"
~ANIL K N

We know Success is by choice, not by chance. 

How can we choose the Success over failures?
Just increase the choices.
How can we have more choices?
Just by taking more chances.
How can we motivate ourselves to take more chances?
Just by giving more chances.
If "Sachin Tendulkar" was not taken a chance to play Cricket over formal education, He wouldn't have got as many choices from Cricketer to Member of Parliament.
If "Shahrukh Khan" was not given a chance in Bollywood, No one would have seen such a multilevel celebrity venturing into so many fields with so many choices.
These two legends were way beyond comparison, but still every successful people has taken a chance and given a chance by someone to increase their choices.

Lets talk about a simple example, some of you might have experienced a similar kind of thing in your Life.
I was doing a small project with one of my friend. We just had a problem statement in our mind, so we wanted to design a solution for that. Before starting itself, we have got more questions about everything else apart from actual Project like
What if it doesn't work?
What if its already done by someone else?
What if its considered as repetitive design?
What if it leads to more expenses?
More and more what if's?
But, We have taken a chance to go for it. I went to market and bought all the necessary raw materials.We worked till late night, It worked for a minute and stopped working. It was a kind of disappointment for that span of time. We didn't knew the reason why it is not working. We doubted on the design itself and thought we might redo the entire design again. But we gave a chance to our first design itself. We decided to debug carefully and we found the bug, solved the issue, design worked. Now The doors has opened for many Choices. The reason for which we thought of designing has fulfilled, but also gave many more ways to expand the design for different requirements.
Taking a chance and Giving a chance will definitely increase our choices in Education, Career, Business, Relationship, everywhere in Life. When we have more choices in our Life, we will get a chance to choose the best for us. We know what is Best for us, We can choose only from the choices we have.

A Person who never had a chance to see a foreign land will always try to convince himself that Whatever he got in his Home land is the best.
A Person who had been to a foreign land and never had a choice to come back to His home land, will try to convince himself that Foreign land is the best.
But A person who have a choice to visit a foreign land any time or return to Home land any time will definitely have the best time in all the places and all the choices he make without convincing himself.

When you close all the doors and feeling never gonna let yourself out, you will never know what you would have got if you have ever given a chance or taken a chance. Most of the times Your fear of going things wrong and fear of loosing your reputation stops you from doing what you really wanted to. Trying to maintain the social reputation by avoiding will actually spoil the social reputation.

"Take a Chance just once and Give a chance just once and see the magic of Life."

~ANIL K N

You're the Inspiration

You know my Friendship is meant to be

The kind of Friendship that lasts forever

And i want you to be with me

from now, until the end of the time

You should know, everywhere i go

you are always on my mind, as a first priority

you are the meaning of nice Life

you are the inspiration

you bring positive feelings

I wanna have you here to hear me saying

No one needs you more than i need you

And i know, yes i know that its plain to see

But, You're the inspiration

I am Sorry

Almost every one of us would have said or heard this phrase “I am Sorry” at least for once in our Life. Nowadays, how often it has been used? How effective it is? Does the Person who asks it really means so? Does the Person who listens values it? Is it necessary to say sorry, when you are actually not? Do you forgive someone for their mistakes, when they say, they are sorry?

I guess these many questions are more than enough to make next few minutes of our time interesting to take our perception level to next dimensions. Let us go through an intense conversation between two People. They can be Friends, Brothers, Sisters, relatives, colleagues, couples or any two who has some kind of relation between them.

A: I am sorry. Please Talk to me.

B: I don’t want to talk to you.

A: I know, you are very angry, Please Listen to me.

B: I don’t want to, why are you forcing me?

A: Why can’t we talk normal again?

B: Who the hell are you to decide? It’s my life, I will decide whether to talk or not.

A: I am extremely sorry, Please give me one more chance.

B: You are no one to me, Get the Hell out of my Life.

A: I accept my mistake, I did wrong to you. It was my bad.

B: You are sick and pathetic, I can’t change my opinion.

A: You can scold me for what I did, I might deserve that.

B: Don’t you have self Respect? It is never going to be normal again and I can’t pretend to be.

A: What do you want me to do?

B: I don’t want anything from you; I want to stay away from you.

A: Please forgive me.

B: I can’t forgive what you have done.

A: I can’t undo what I have done; I will promise that I will not repeat again.

B: I can’t trust you anymore.

A: I didn’t have any wrong intentions.

B: If you don’t have any wrong intentions, stay away from me.

A: I am afraid I can’t Trust myself anymore and may not be able to forgive myself.

B: I can’t be normal with you again, But, I don’t want to spoil your image in front of others, I will try to behave normal in front of others.

I know, this is little too much of intense conversation. While reading, if any of you have pictured yourself in one of the characters, I am sure you are looking for some kind of support for your actions. Well, I don’t know who is right? Or who is wrong?

From the conversation, most of us can make out, Our Friend A is trying very hard to keep the relationship alive and desperate for forgiveness. And Our Friend B is too much upset and disappointed with A’s mistakes and not willing to have any kind of relationship.

There are no bad people, only wrong decisions during certain circumstances make them do bad actions. We just need to learn to handle those critical situations in Life to avoid most of the actions which leads to negative results. It doesn’t means mistakes will never happen, Mistakes do happen, but we need to make sure we are not repeating the same mistakes again and again. To avoid repeating the mistakes, it is necessary to realize that mistake has been done and learn from it and rectify it. This is very general way and applies when you are dealing with some kind of experiment doing independently, even after making mistakes, learn from it, don’t give up, have a hope and retry in a different approach till you get the desired result, Since we have gone through a kind of apology/forgiveness in relationship, which involves two different Human beings not the things whose thoughts are completely individual to each other.

How do we deal with this?

Even though it's a matter between two different individuals, Success of Relationship is also based on few basic principles. Success is a Journey not the destination, so do the Relationship. It is not about winning or losing. It is more of pursuing. AS our Friend A was trying hard to maintain the Relationship and Friend B was afraid of trusting B again. If you have empathized it with any of the characters as either ‘A’ or ‘B’.

As ‘A’ you should find out what exactly you are expecting from B and How much you are ready to give for that and Is it really worth all the efforts you are going to put in? If you are clear with your intentions, do not make any wrong moves, Have Hope and wait with  patience to show you deserve to have one more chance. Before that forgive yourself, because you have realized what is your mistake and ready to correct yourself, Now is the time to prove it in action. Don’t try to force yourself into B’s space Focus on implementing your learning in all other Relationships you have. You may or may not get back into normal relationship with B again, But you will never lose any other Relationship again. If you are really sorry, Respect B’s feelings and Decision and give the freedom to B to decide whether B wants to give one more chance to the Relationship or not?

As ‘B’ you should figure out, you want to end the Relationship right away forever or just want to wait whether A is going to take any wrong decision again? If you want to End the Relationship, Don’t wait or hide. You don’t want it means you don’t. why to think of other people, instead of pretending normal in front of others. End the Relationship openly in front of all. If you want to wait and see, that means you have already forgiven A, you just need a proof that this time you are not going to be hurt again. Forgiving takes out biggest burden on your shoulders.

We all know, every relationship is important and valuable. It takes years to build and maintain. Sometimes few mistakes can easily break any relationship. If the relationship is so weak, it wouldn’t have deserved this much of discussion. If it is based on Truth and Honesty, It will sustain no matter How worse the fights are?

If you say “I am Sorry” again mean it so truly that you never need to say it again. If you forgive someone even after the biggest mistakes, make sure, you never lose that Relationship.