My House Journey

The Journey which i am going to talk about is not to reach any geographical location. This Journey of mine is more of my mind exploring its new potentials. Being a Leo, most of the times, i am extra confident. Yes extra confident, not over confident. Always confident in education, career, family, love and relationship. When it comes to start something new, before even knowing what all it takes to make it happen, i just feel confident that i will do it no matter what it takes. Along with this confidence, i will be in a fear of not able to achieve what i started. This fear of failure is the main reason most of the people are scared of starting anything new. For me this fear helps me in retaining my focus till the end goal. This fear is helpful once started a new life. But how do i overcome this fear which stops the decision itself.

Let me take an example. I wanted to buy a new house. I don't have sufficient money to buy in one shot. I was not aware of Home Loan process and complications. I was not aware of the legal documents required and verified before buying the House. 

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Now comes the Fear of Failure. Failures are nothing but not able to buy the house within planned schedule or being cheated or losing money or spending too much. Steps to overcome the initial fear is define the Target Date to achieve your Goal. As most of my decisions, i will look for a special occasion. This time i targeted my birthday. I had 2 month time. Second step is  to announce your target and the deadline. Once it is done, the same fear which is stopping from starting will help in executing what i have started. 

Now while achieving the target within the time frame. I followed a simple flow by breaking up the journey into sub tasks and linking each sub task as the trigger and gating item to the next task. Such as choosing on the location, fixing on the budget, options of the bank for Loan, deciding on the house and documentation.

Everything i mentioned till now is just planning. Planning is as important as execution. Execution without plan leads to dead ends sometimes. Irrespective of best planning, there will be issues and hurdles while actual execution. So anticipate the issues and include some alternate options in every sub task. Issues which i faced were i had to compromise on the location which increased 1 km distance from the ideal requirement and increase in budget to certain extent. Option of Bank changed to meet the deadline. So always be flexible to adapt to the situation and modify or update the plan without losing track of end goal.

Most of these things may be routine and can be achieved by most of you. For me, it was more of journey of my mind because every process and interaction with strangers and decision making with limited knowledge and resources is the work of mind. 

And I achieved my target on my birthday and during the same time i had to start my journey to a different geographical location as well, which i did successfully. Journey started in a mind with a thought and going on in my new House.

You need to have Memory before you can Forget

Most of the times, we will forget what we are suppose to remember and we won't forget what we are suppose to forget. There is a saying that "Forgetting things is a boon to people, so that people can forget all the bad memories and move on with the Life" When we forget things which we are suppose to remember, we feel bad that our memory is not strong enough and wonder how did we forget such a small thing. When we cannot forget something which is bothering, we feel bad that why our memory is so strong and worry why can't we forget?

Now the question is How to avoid forgetting things which we are suppose to remember? and How to forget things which are troubling us? 

First of all, we are clear what not to forget? like buying few things to home, paying the bills before last date, clearing the debts in time, filling the fuel to the vehicle before it stops in the middle of the street, completing the assignment, most importantly working towards our dream/goal/success. Everyone one of us have dreams and the ability to achieve it, but we forget to remind ourselves that we need to work towards it to accomplish.

We are also clear what to forget? like bad incidents, fights, failures, Relationship issues, Anger, Revenge, Fear. Everyone of us deserves a happy life to enjoy the present moment by forgetting past sorrows, but we keep reminding ourselves about those incidents.

Rather than finding out How? to overcome? If we are able to answer why? we can find out How? very easily. This is the common principle works everywhere, but we forget to apply. Lets make use of this without forgetting.

Lets find out why not to forget few things? 

because if we forget,

1. It will cost us.

2. It might hurt someone.

3. It lead us to do double work.

4. It adds up unnecessary pressure.

5. It will affect our regular routine.

so, it is important to remember.

Lets find out why to forget few things?

because

1. we cannot live in present.

2. we cannot focus on work.

3. we cannot enjoy current happiness.

4. we cannot give time to others and ourselves as well.

5. we won't move forward in Life.

so, it is important to forget those which stops us from growing.

Before forgetting something, we should have some memory about it to forget right? How can we store something into our memory? By providing input to our mind regarding something. The problem in things which we forget, we don't feed those inputs into our memory, because of the least priority or still there is no deadline. It just takes a couple of thoughts to feed into our memory. But we won''t do that, instead we just sense that something has to be done. something like a video camera running without memory card inside to store. 

If we just follow a simple two step procedure 

1. Give attention to detail

2. provide the input to mind, just by thinking once what has to be done.

in everything we do, we will get impressed by ourselves in no time.

A simple example will be How many times we forget the names of the new people we meet?

If we just give our attention, while they are telling their name and recalling their name and thinking about it, we won't forget their name at least for few weeks.

How to forget? is more complex than how to remember? Because the things which we are suppose to forget are nothing but the memories which are repetitively occurred and reinforced over time and again. These memories are something stored in hundreds of memory card with multiple backups. Now we erase one memory block, there exists a backup of it. Our mind has an infinite memory space with an enable option to activate those. Our mind doesn't forget things so easily, it is very complex and time consuming, but we can deactivate those memories by putting a wall around it. That means, we don't forget completely, its just we do not recall it. Remembering to forget something will actually create a backup of the memory one more time that we have to forget that. Instead if we don't force ourselves in forgetting and redo the different things in the same space, there are more chances of overriding the memories which we want to forget.

A simple example will be the school life or college life, we would have gone to school/college everyday and interact with same set of people repetitively that would have created huge set of backups. But when we replace our school life with college life and college with work life, we will be doing the different set of activities daily repetitively i.e. in the same space. which slowly builds a wall over old set of memories and create a new set of memories. This leads us to forget the things smoothly and live in the present.

"No need to forget old memories irrespective of whether its good or bad, instead create a new set of memories with time; which gives us enough option to choose the memories which makes us happy any time"

~ANIL K N

Emotion-Thoughts Equivalence

If Energy-Mass Equivalence from Einstein’s Theory of Relativity is to be used to understand the functioning of Brain, I have a very simple analogy to emphasize on the enormous Strength of our Brain.

In Energy-Mass Equivalence, E = MC²: E = Energy, M = Mass of an object and C = Speed of Light.

How can we relate this to the power of our Brain?

What is M and C in Brain?

Is it Mind Control?

Awesome thoughts to do some Brainstorming, Isn’t it?

Let me explain with an example, Consider a 5 years old kid is made to listen to a song of a foreign language, which he doesn’t know for several times, The kid will be able to pick up the lyrics, tune,  memorize and even sing. Some of few might have witnesses this from the kids around. In this case, M is number of times the kid has listened to the song. And C is the number of times kid tried singing even though it doesn’t know what it is?

Let us consider one more example, Recall yourself attended any VIVA/Oral Exams, where you have asked series of questions about some of your subjects or labs. I know most of the times you are not exactly prepared for it, but still you were able to impress the Evaluator and pass the Exam. In this case, M is a few amount of information you have studied or heard or remembered. C is the speed at which you respond to the questions.

We will see one more last example, If you were given 5 minutes time to genuinely think of all the negative qualities of a person about whom you know for a while, How many can you come up with? And again If you were given same 5 minutes to genuinely think of all the positive qualities of the same person, How many can you list down? Each one can have different numbers.

But the point I wanted to convey here is the Feelings/Emotions felt while listing down positive and Negative Qualities are entirely different right? Here, E is the Emotion that leads to the Energy inturn leads to the Excitement which leads to the Enthusiasm to act positive or Negative.

In General, E = Emotion, M = Amount of Information you know, C = Speed of your thoughts

“The Emotions you feel is related to the amount of information you feed and the rate at which you think about it”.

So, when you feed positive information/knowledge/ideas and think about those more frequently, your Emotions will be more positive that leads you to take positive actions.

Successful people allow themselves to know more & more positive information’s about what they want to achieve and think at the faster rate, so that they can implement, execute and achieve even before common man thinks about it.

Its in your Hands

The Title would have been perceived as either our control is in someone's hand or someone's control is in our hand. A very few would have perceived it as our control is in our own hands. I am stating with telling 3 different perceptions of the single statement. There might be many other ways readers would have perceived. I will give my best to let your mind perceive it in the right way and the same way i am trying to convey.

 

One of the readers of my blogs felt a blog of mine helped him in handling one of the real time situation in his life. I was obviously very happy to know my writings was useful to someone. But then I read my own blog many times again and again. Every time i was perceiving it in a different ways based on my emotional and mental state at that moment of time. Even though that blog was trying to convey the same message, the applicability of the same was in numerous. The purpose of reading that blog was to find out how that blog can make someone's mind perceive it in the right way. The answer i got was, it was simple and narrated with an example. But I also learnt lot about perception depending on current state of mind.

 

We may not be responsible for what happens to us and what kind of situations we have to go through, But we are certainly responsible and accountable for the outcomes of the circumstances. we always have the choice whether to stick to it or let it go. Every time we fall short of what we wanted: just by an inch, It means we were just an inch away from what we aspired for. Don't quit, a little push can take us where we want to be and get us what we wanted.

 

The previous statements was very general and it looks like a good set of positive statements. I will come back to my simple way of communicating with an example. Let us consider, we don't like someone. Most of the times we don't know the reason, but still we feel like irritated and frustrated by that person. I have heard many people saying i get furious by hearing that person's name only. When i ask for reason, they don't have a valid one. The perception of our mind towards that person will be negative by default. We don't like the way they dress, the way they speak, their life style, their behavior, basically everything they do. The funnier part will be most of the time we would never communicated with that person. Its just kind of false feelings controlling our mind.

 

Next time when  you come across such situation, try to figure out the exact reason why is it so? Don't just conclude by saying my wish. List out the reasons why is it so? and validate how many of them are actually true and How many of we just wrote to justify our feeling is correct? Now try to point out a positive point of every reason you listed out. The perceptions in our mind will be fighting to prove which one is right!

 

This was just an example of How disliking someone was in our hands even though we don't know anything about them. Similarly, when we like someone, we will justify ourselves with hundreds of positive reasons to prove our feelings are genuine and if it is special someone, then we will fight and defend them in front of the toughest opposition as well to show the world that our feeling has a reason. Even In this case, the funny part is we wouldn't have know that person personally. We perceive them as the best and compare with everything else and rate to the top.

 

This two examples  are just to understand the power of our perception towards others. When we replace the other person we don't like or the person we like with our states of mind like giving up attitude or Never give up attitude; working towards success or letting things to work by itself; Speaking brave or keeping quiet like coward; facing the problem or avoiding to face; accepting the responsibility or rejecting to be accountable; Its all in our hands

 

"The Universe is in your hands, you just needs to allow your galaxies to expand to the new horizons and explore the infinite possibilities of taking your Life to new Dimensions."
~ANIL K N