Most of the times, we will forget what we are suppose to remember and we won't forget what we are suppose to forget. There is a saying that "Forgetting things is a boon to people, so that people can forget all the bad memories and move on with the Life" When we forget things which we are suppose to remember, we feel bad that our memory is not strong enough and wonder how did we forget such a small thing. When we cannot forget something which is bothering, we feel bad that why our memory is so strong and worry why can't we forget?
Now the question is How to avoid forgetting things which we are suppose to remember? and How to forget things which are troubling us?
First of all, we are clear what not to forget? like buying few things to home, paying the bills before last date, clearing the debts in time, filling the fuel to the vehicle before it stops in the middle of the street, completing the assignment, most importantly working towards our dream/goal/success. Everyone one of us have dreams and the ability to achieve it, but we forget to remind ourselves that we need to work towards it to accomplish.
We are also clear what to forget? like bad incidents, fights, failures, Relationship issues, Anger, Revenge, Fear. Everyone of us deserves a happy life to enjoy the present moment by forgetting past sorrows, but we keep reminding ourselves about those incidents.
Rather than finding out How? to overcome? If we are able to answer why? we can find out How? very easily. This is the common principle works everywhere, but we forget to apply. Lets make use of this without forgetting.
Lets find out why not to forget few things?
because if we forget,
1. It will cost us.
2. It might hurt someone.
3. It lead us to do double work.
4. It adds up unnecessary pressure.
5. It will affect our regular routine.
so, it is important to remember.
Lets find out why to forget few things?
because
1. we cannot live in present.
2. we cannot focus on work.
3. we cannot enjoy current happiness.
4. we cannot give time to others and ourselves as well.
5. we won't move forward in Life.
so, it is important to forget those which stops us from growing.
Before forgetting something, we should have some memory about it to forget right? How can we store something into our memory? By providing input to our mind regarding something. The problem in things which we forget, we don't feed those inputs into our memory, because of the least priority or still there is no deadline. It just takes a couple of thoughts to feed into our memory. But we won''t do that, instead we just sense that something has to be done. something like a video camera running without memory card inside to store.
If we just follow a simple two step procedure
1. Give attention to detail
2. provide the input to mind, just by thinking once what has to be done.
in everything we do, we will get impressed by ourselves in no time.
A simple example will be How many times we forget the names of the new people we meet?
If we just give our attention, while they are telling their name and recalling their name and thinking about it, we won't forget their name at least for few weeks.
How to forget? is more complex than how to remember? Because the things which we are suppose to forget are nothing but the memories which are repetitively occurred and reinforced over time and again. These memories are something stored in hundreds of memory card with multiple backups. Now we erase one memory block, there exists a backup of it. Our mind has an infinite memory space with an enable option to activate those. Our mind doesn't forget things so easily, it is very complex and time consuming, but we can deactivate those memories by putting a wall around it. That means, we don't forget completely, its just we do not recall it. Remembering to forget something will actually create a backup of the memory one more time that we have to forget that. Instead if we don't force ourselves in forgetting and redo the different things in the same space, there are more chances of overriding the memories which we want to forget.
A simple example will be the school life or college life, we would have gone to school/college everyday and interact with same set of people repetitively that would have created huge set of backups. But when we replace our school life with college life and college with work life, we will be doing the different set of activities daily repetitively i.e. in the same space. which slowly builds a wall over old set of memories and create a new set of memories. This leads us to forget the things smoothly and live in the present.
"No need to forget old memories irrespective of whether its good or bad, instead create a new set of memories with time; which gives us enough option to choose the memories which makes us happy any time"
~ANIL K N
